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Post by Cervantes on Oct 14, 2018 19:59:29 GMT
Sorry to hear that, centipede, and for taking so long to respond. It's always hard to lose a relative that's so near to us, so I hope you can get support from your family and that you can all go through this loss. |
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centipede
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Post by centipede on Oct 15, 2018 1:47:01 GMT
Leaving for the funeral soon. Not looking forward to it.
On Saturday, Mum's stress caught up with her and she got a brief case of angina (signs of an impending heart attack). I drove her to the clinic. It settled after sitting down for a while and some water, BUT another looming death is not what we need right now! It left me on edge until yesterday.
All I've been wanting to do is sleep these past two weeks. Brain wants to get back on track but lacks will power.
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stratogustav
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Post by stratogustav on Oct 15, 2018 2:09:36 GMT
I wish you the best. I hope your mom gets the strengh she needs for this very hard times.
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centipede
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Post by centipede on Nov 21, 2018 8:16:07 GMT
Mum is feeling overwhelmed right now. The house has to be sold because she has trouble with stairs. I've been with her, going through their old things. She is reluctant to throw some things out, even though a lot of it's now superfluous, like the hundred cook books she has.
We could call on my brothers, again, but she's reluctant to do that because 'they all have their own lives', even though they said they would help out. She said that to me, but with every little health scare she has, it puts me on edge.
Also, my eldest brother lives only ten minutes away, but Mum's reluctant to call on him, because he'll bring along his wife who she doesn't trust.
Even before Dad had his fall, I recommended they get some help from an organisation like BlueCare to help them take care of things around the house. Dad was too stubborn to accept it, so said no to it. Then he had the fall and got some assistance, but not the kind Mum needs right now.
When enlisting the help of the likes of BlueCare, it takes a while to get things going after registration, and registration should've happened months ago!
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Post by stratogustav on Nov 21, 2018 8:23:15 GMT
It's nice you are helping her out. She needs emotional support too, whatever she says, she is right, being there with her is the best thing you can do.
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centipede
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Post by centipede on Nov 21, 2018 10:10:06 GMT
It's having an impact on me too. Every day, I wake up and wonder if she went off in her sleep as well.
She's not much younger than Dad was. She gets stressed easily, which hurts her health. She's spent last Monday night in hospital, having stints put in to assist her heart, she's had gout in her feet, which made it hard for her to walk today.
There are certain things (a few of the pub already know about) I want to focus on and finish, but worrying about her and the future get in the way. It's harder to keep on focus and keep on track. Often, I go onto Youtube to watch a tutorial but end up watching some drama shit instead and wasting a couple of hours of my own time.
I'm also planning on setting up a Fiverr account to sell some art. All my stuff so far is on big canvases, but I want to sell A4-sized acrylic art for like $15 to $20 each (plus postage if they want the original, plus extra if they want it laminated). So, I was planing to do a few new ones on A4 size to post on my account page. But that still hasn't happened yet. I was going to do one of Stella the viral dog (and send it to Mark) and also Derek.
But I feel so burnt out right now.
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Post by stratogustav on Nov 21, 2018 11:00:37 GMT
You can do it man. Don't ever make her feel like she is burden, just give her love, and she may last you decades. Just remember how many sacrifices she has done for you, and allow that to motivate you. You are a good son. Being young is definitely an advantage, use that leverage to multi-task on everything you want to accomplish.
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centipede
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Post by centipede on Nov 21, 2018 12:31:55 GMT
She may last me decades? She would be lucky to have one decade left in her. You know how I said she's not much younger than Dad was? Well, Dad would've turned 79 this Friday. She could go at any time, just like Dad did, so I'm a little anxious.
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Post by stratogustav on Nov 21, 2018 12:38:23 GMT
Hopefully she'll last you long, that's all I'm saying. One can only live one day at the time, so do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Take care of her, and try to cherish those moments.
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Post by Dan E. Kool on Nov 21, 2018 17:11:09 GMT
I feel you, centipede. I'm sure it's very stressful for all of you. |
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Post by centipede on Nov 25, 2018 8:52:02 GMT
We had the internment today. His ashes were put into the ground. They dug a little hole in a lavender garden and poured his ashes in, with a little plaque on the concrete border. He had been doing some grounds-keeping at this very cemetery as a pass time, so I was disappointed he didn't have something more.
It rained a little. We even had a bird fly onto the chapel, like he was paying his respects (not really, but I thought it was good enough for a picture). Afterwards, we all socialised, caught up with my nephew and we caught up with some family history, because I have ancestors buried there as well.
Feeling melancholy, and now it's dark and thundering at home.
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