Limp handshakes.

How do I know they won't scream? Because that would be really weird for them to do. A handshake is a very standard way to meet people. I just like to do double handshakes because they are more playful, but it is not necessary. If right away she likes you, you can tell by her anime eyes, and then you can keep holding her hands or hug her.

A hug is actually better. I always make excuses to give girls hugs. She says I work as a teacher, I'm like aw that deserves a hug. It doesn't have to make sense. It's a very quick invite, and then you grab them, you don't just grab them. Also don't make the hug weird, it's a quick thing you can do multiple times as long as you don't make it weird.

Also if you have a good voice, if you are loud enough and clear, if you speak normal, not like a beggar, if you make eye contact, basically if you are not weird at all, no one is going to tell you to piss off right of the bat because that would make them weird. As long as you act normal nothing is going to happen because they don't want to be weird.

It all comes down to always be in a good mood, to never do anything that feels forceful, act normal, and most importantly unwind and actually enjoy socializing to people. This is the most important part, if you are not enjoying yourself then no one is going to enjoy your company. You must always put yourself first, how you feel, before you care about others, but you do both.

Yeah, if you are in high energy places like clubs sometimes you will end up meeting some crazies bitches. Usually these places are better to meet hotter girls because they feel more protected in that environment.

When something like that happened before I used to just laugh it off and move to next, but soon I realized it was just a front, like a self defense mechanism, because girls are mostly sex addicts and they know anyone can fuck them if they try hard enough, so they put obstacles to prevent this, bitchy behavior is just one of those fronts. There are others, like acting super educated and formal, that can also be a front.

Once I realized this was just a front, I figured out that if you stay normal the whole time and you just don't bail, then the girl will drop those fronts sooner or later because she will feel like the weird one, and that's not a feeling girls like to have.

Just act as if you expect she will be normal and she will sense that from you and she will want to act accordingly. I think this is where all those cliché advices on socializing come from, like the be yourself advice. I don't think that's a good advice for a lot of people because a lot of people don't act naturally in the first place, they are also always putting a front, a personality that is not them, that it doesn't feel real or authentic, instead it feels rehearsed and like trying to impress.

If you do that in a social setting you will also get a fake front from others. So put your real authentic personality on the line, and people will respect that, and they will also act normal themselves. It will be easier for them to trust you to. A lot of girls don't leave with guys because they just don't trust them because this front they put. If you drop that, she will drop it too, and you won't have to worry about that kind of stuff anymore.

A front is not an obstacle in that sense, it's more like a strainer girls use, it's an automatic defense mechanism built often unconsciously to prevent wasting their time on guys that have no business talking to them.

About "the girl isn't opening to anyone", OF COURSE, that's the whole point I was making. They know they are vulnerable. They don't want people taking advantage of that, and they have a right to do that.

At the end of the day women are human too. Men have this problem that judge women for being sexual. They think it is a bad thing, that somehow sex diminish their value as a person. This is just bushit propaganda, and as a consequence many women are pushed by society to put a face that isn't them just to fit into that narrative.

I repeat, women are human too, they have sexual desires just like men, and I would say they are much more intense. You can tell during intimacy, you can see them shaking in joy, and sure we men enjoy sex too, but not as much as they do, and you can clearly see it.

I work with nude models, and you won't believe how much crap they usually go through when they decide to work in this field. People they know, their close friends, even their own families reject them. They make them feel bad for being themselves, for wanting to display their own sexuality, as if it is a bad thing for them to do.

It is really a shame people think this way, but luckily many women are much stronger than people give them credit for, and they don't allow all that crap to stand in their way, if they have an opportunity to be free, they will take it, and no one can deny to them that privilege.

I just noticed the word "obstacle" was misinterpreted, but I assure my intention was not to use it in the sense you are referring to.

It sounds to me that you think I think it's OK to bother women, and that you can be totally senseless about it.

That's not the case, if anything I'm pointing out that they put these "obstacles", so you don't bother them. Meaning, that once you know that is going on, you can be sensitive about it (which is the opposite of senseless), and instead understand why they do it.

If you behave like a real person, I assure you they will drop these shields, that are there only to protect themselves.

If for some reason they have things going on outside their power, like they are with their husbands, or something like that. They will let you know like a normal person, and not like a crazy bitch, but it doesn't mean you can't still enjoy the conversation, exchange contact information, that kind of stuff.

Remember the whole purpose of going out to these places is to unwind from daily routines and to have a good time socializing, and if you are doing that, you are not bothering them, instead you are adding value to their night, just like they are adding it to yours.

Cervantes, I hope that makes sense.

Suuure it was. "Unfortunate choice of words." Riiiiiiiighhhht. 

A Big Lebowski quote comes to mind: "Mr Treehorn treats objects like women, man!"

Dan E. Kool - Yes, man, juuuust unfortunate, ok? See, stratogustav, we're all agreeing here and I promise no one is calling the police right now.

stratogustav - You really, REALLY hated Jeff Bridges in The Big Lebowski, didn't you?

Sounds better than whatever they are doing right now!

I feel like you just don't get the Dude, man.